Who I Hit
They're both affable, generally. But the difference is clear: Miles, O'Brien, is a working man's kind of affable. Bashir, Julian, is a friend to all but also none, if he'll let himself admit it.
I like you more. Just a little bit more.
I don't hate you, anyway.
The both of them linger on the cusp of stereotypical attitudes that should render "I don't hate you" right across the pond to mean "I like you just fine" because they spend so much time liking other people just fine.
But also not.
But...I like you more. And that's what matters.